Self control isn't getting rid of the urges or never thinking thoughts that make you feel urges, right? We want to work on our thoughts, and we want to learn how to re direct our thoughts. You're not going to be able to control every single thought that comes in. So self control is about feeling any urge, feeling any sensation, n just letting it be there out giving into it. How you do it is by describing the sensation in your body, getting very neutral about it and breathing into it. Allright, you don't need to be afraid of urges any more. They are simple sensations in your body. Don't be afraid of them. This will completely change your