This chapter explores the second strategy for managing triangles, which involves returning responsibility to the person complaining. It discusses the underlying reasons for complaining and provides useful phrases to redirect the problem to the complainer, stressing the significance of neither arguing nor agreeing. Recognizing this process is crucial for effectively handling and avoiding triangles.
When we are uncomfortable with another, we often avoid dealing directly with that relationship by triangling a third person or issue. Understanding how triangles work and how to deal with them is essential to healthy functioning.
This is the audio of Chapter 4 on Triangles from my book, If You Met My Family, You'd Understand: A Family Systems Primer. You can find all 10 chapters of the book in Episodes 56-65 of this Podcast.
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If You Met My Family, You'd Understand: A Family Systems Primer
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