Parenting

You know, and it's not domestic in that sense. You know, it's not trying to keep a quiet life going. And so, but we need to recognize clearly that the parents have a particular role in guiding little children in the right way without anxiety, without inducing shame, with encouragement, and with wisely looking at the opportunities they have to develop their identity according to the nature that God gave them. First of all, they're boys and girls. That's a very basic distinction that they all learn and they know right away without much training. But then in those things which express masculinity and femininity, to be careful to make sure that they are conveyed in such a way that if they don't get it right away, that they're not being shamed for it. And that, you know, like if the little boy picks up a doll, you know, you don't just grab it from him and slap him and say don't do that. Here's a machine gun. Right. No, you, you, you, you behave in a way which is encouraging men like encouragement. They like, they like, they like being told they're great and that they can do things and encourage to do things and overcome fear because so often there's just a fear there. The hesitant boy who's hesitant in sports and what not, a kind coach, a kind father that kind of moves him along so that he can begin to identify with other boys. He may never, he may develop so that he still has that inclination, but he doesn't have to view it as something that he's required to act out on socially sexually. Right. Or that an alienates him from other men. No, exactly. No, exactly. And that this is the problem is that with, with men like that, the very thing they need, they feel alienated for because of this late 19th century, a psycholization where everyone's ashamed of being nuts. And so they did, if you look at that, and then parents are afraid of that for their children. Right. You look at poetry or art or photography before this period, you know, men showed great affection for each other. I mean, how many, they do this now online, they do it like this is proof that there were gays forever. These are pictures of men sitting in each other's laps or hugging each other, touching each other. No, it was very common to have pictures portraits made with your best friend. Before you made everybody uncomfortable in other words. Right. But then they created it as a pathology, these nerdy Germanic people. And then they just, they made it so that people became ashamed of that. And so all you can do is slap someone in the back, you know, right. And it was before it was very, you read Tennyson's in memoriam where he goes on and on an epic poem all because he was completely devastated by the death of his friend. And now people say, well, that's gay. That goes in the gay studies program. Right. Well, no, it was just a man, a man in love with another man because they were friends, friendship. Amichizia in Latin means lovingness. That's what it means literally, lovingness. And Augustine is a great example, his morning for the death of his friend, where he said, I feared to die less if I should die, he should die completely. Right. Because he was half of my soul. He goes on and on and on about that. And Cardinal Newman who determined that he should be buried not next to, but in the same grave as Amber's Cinjian. And of course, all the clap trappers, the London tablet and all this liberal Catholic press and whatnot, they go on and say, we'll see there was a gay relationship. No, they were friends. Get it.

#389 Aquinas on Transgenderism - Fr. Hugh Barbour, O. Praem.

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