Grief Reaction and Grief Response Pervaded With Choice

Lucy hone is a public health researcher at the university of canterbury. After her 12 year old daughter was killed in a traffic crash, lucy tracked her own grief process closely. She realized that we are wrong when we think grief is only something that happens to us. While it's true that grieving people do not feel they have much control over their emotions, there were things she could do to change the way she felt. They were active choices she could make. These choice did not erase her grief. That was neither possible nor healthy, but they did allow her to feel like she could manage it.