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227: Where emotions come from (and why it matters) Part 2
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Reappraisal and Emotional Responses: Understanding Perspectives
This chapter delves into the process of reappraising emotional responses, especially in frustrating situations like road rage. It highlights the significance of perspective-taking, distraction influences, and addressing underlying needs to promote healthier emotional interactions.
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Understanding Emotions: Insights from Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett
In our last conversation with Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett [Where emotions come from (and why it matters) Part 1] a couple of weeks ago we looked at her theory of where emotions originate. This has important implications for things like:
- How our 'body budgets' affect our feelings
- How we make meaning from our feelings so our internal experience makes sense
- That we don't always understand other people's feelings very well!
The introduction to the theory plus the conversation plus the take-home messages would have made for an unwieldy episode, so I split it in half.
Today we conclude the conversation with Dr. Barrett and I also offer some thoughts about things I think are really important from across the two episodes, including:
- What we can do with the information our feelings give us
- How long we should support children in feeling their feelings (given that they don't always mean what we think they mean!) and when we should help them move on
- Some tools we can use to re-regulate in difficult moments with our kids
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00:59 Introducing todayâs episode and featured guests 05:01 People in chaotic or uncertain situations, like poverty or neurodivergence, face greater challenges due to the increased stress on their body budgets. 18:02 Understanding and managing personal needs as a parent, along with emotional flexibility, can lead to more effective responses to children. 23:46 Parents need to balance their own feelings with their children's by asking if their kids want empathy or help. They should remember that every interaction is a chance to teach kids how to manage their emotions. 31:07 Parents can view their empathy for their children as a sign of competence, balancing their own needs with their child's emotions. 34:22 Jen draws conclusions from Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrettâs research on emotions, highlighting how parents can use this understanding to empower their children in navigating feelings and enhancing emotional literacy.References
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