Shifting from Criticism to Curiosity

In this episode, I sit down with one of my dearest friends, Alyshia Ochse—an actress, writer, and host of That One Audition—for a deeply honest conversation about creativity, evolution, and what it means to live fully expressed. Alyshia and I go way back, and this conversation feels like sitting down with a sister to unpack the beautiful, messy process of growth. We talk about the “itchy” seasons that come before transformation, how success evolves with age and awareness, and the power of embracing stillness instead of forcing clarity.

Alyshia shares how she’s learning to define success on her own terms, welcome the valleys with grace, and release patterns of people-pleasing to make room for deeper, more authentic relationships. Together, we explore what it means to lead with self-trust, accept change, and allow yourself to be fully seen—both in life and art. This episode is an invitation to embrace your next chapter with courage, curiosity, and compassion.

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KEY POINTS: 

00:49 A Heartfelt Reunion

01:56 Reflecting on Growth and Evolution

04:27 Navigating Creative Itch and Boredom

09:56 Defining Success and Embracing Valleys

20:48 The Power of Vulnerability in Creativity

25:11 Embracing Emotional Awareness

25:54 Practicing Delayed Responses

26:23 Learning Self-Care and Boundaries

28:08 Navigating Grief and Loss

34:11 The Role of Parental Relationships

39:19 Recovery and Self-Validation

45:09 Redefining Friendships and Influence

51:08 Conclusion and Gratitude

QUOTABLES:

“ I've had conversations with other women about this idea of like when you grow and evolve it's,

a little bit of spiritual sandpaper if you will. And, and when you kind of catch yourself trying to sand the edges of your decision making process, your soul, what you're okay with, what you're not okay with, to kind of fit something that no longer fits, then how do you give yourself the permission to accept that?

Because a lot of people want to avoid that because it is grief. It is loss. It is you coming to terms and being honest with the fact that, oh, maybe I'm not supposed to be in a relationship with this person anymore. Maybe I'm not supposed to be friends with this person anymore. Maybe I'm not supposed to work with this person anymore.” - Julie Solomon 

“  There's a deepening to my relationships, not only with my work, but with people, places and things, is just really learning how to show more of myself. It's really ironic to be in this profession where I'm seen, but I was hiding from being seen for so long, and I feel like I'm just starting to awaken.” - Alyshia Ochse

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website: www.alyshiaochse.com

business: www.thebridgeforactors.com

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