Predicting Relationship Success: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

In this episode Sal, Adam & Justin speak with Drs. John & Julie Gottman about scientifically proven ways to improve relationships.

• What is the Gottman Institute, and what is its purpose? (2:29)
• What got them so interested in studying relationships? (4:16)
• What are some of the biggest misconceptions about the way we look at marriages back then compared to now? (6:00)
• What is the Love Lab, and how did it work? (9:10)
• The Four Horseman of the Apocalypse. (13:39)
• The Sound Relationship House theory of what makes relationships work. (18:52)
• The importance of focusing on the process rather than the content. (29:48)
• The value of their research in helping build healthy relationships. (34:44)
• Any differences in same sex-relationships vs different-sex relationships? (39:52)
• Are there things culturally that are working against them? (49:12)
• The importance of a moral aspect in a healthy relationship. (55:24)
• Love is an action. (57:38)
• Building connection through practice on Gottman Connect. (1:03:22)
• Love Rx and closing words to the Mind Pump audience. (1:09:21)

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