I Try Never to Hear What a Person Thinks

I try never to connect even verbally a person's pain to forces outside themselves if I'm gonna connect with the pain immediately to a need how can you connect the pain to people's thinking. and never to reflect because I think it just hurts the other person to hear any verbal reflection for example so they're annoyed by the elections or hurt about their husband leaving them. The thoughts that I'm telling you that I try never to go to are those disconnected from needs I try to go to the needs what needs are these thoughts serving the thoughts cut off from the needs are dead, he says.