Do You Want My Help With Your 10-Year-Old?

"Most of what bothers us about these things about our kids is related to the story that we're telling ourselves," she says. "Your world doesn't exist to please other people or to do things to make other people prove of you." A 10-year-old almost has to think about what her peers are thinking of her, and it's adaptive. She will carry that not today necessarily, but over time in the long term.