Have you ever felt stuck in a negative relationship cycle?
Have you ever struggled with setting boundaries in your relationships?
Today, Jay welcomes back a community favorite, the renowned psychotherapist, bestselling author, and podcast host Lori Gottlieb, for an insightful chat about love, relationships, and emotional growth. Lori, best known for her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and as co-host of the popular Dear Therapists podcast, brings her deep wisdom and practical advice that really hits home with listeners.
Lori shares how people often step into love with unrealistic expectations, thanks to social media and pop culture. She reminds us that while the spark of initial chemistry is thrilling, true, long-lasting love thrives on a deeper connection and genuine understanding. One of the highlights is Lori’s take on “idiot compassion” versus “wise compassion.” She breaks down how real compassion means looking at ourselves honestly, recognizing our patterns, and owning our part in the relationship. This is essential for anyone feeling trapped in negative cycles.
As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Lori dive into family dynamics, especially around in-laws and blending families. Lori offers practical tips on how to support your relationship while still showing respect for parents, pointing out that these challenges are usually a couple's issues, not just external ones.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations
How to Practice Wise Compassion
How to Break Negative Patterns
How to Handle Pressure to Rush Relationships
How to Prioritize Clear Communication
How to Avoid Pop Culture Relationship Pitfalls
How to Cultivate Emotional Resilience
Remember, true connection flourishes when we commit to growth, communicate openly, and remain empathetic to both ourselves and others. Every step taken toward understanding and compassion brings you closer to creating a life filled with genuine, lasting connections.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
- 00:00 Intro
- 02:29 What is Everyone Doing at My Age?
- 05:08 Why Doing Self Work Matters
- 08:40 Why You Need to Slow Down to Save Time
- 13:03 How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationship
- 17:03 First Date Impressions Aren’t Always Accurate
- 21:26 How Do You Define Real Human Connection?
- 24:33 Do You Fully Understand Your Partner?
- 28:24 Learn to Communicate Your Desires
- 31:26 This is What Happens When You Don’t Communicate
- 35:24 Why We’re Unreliable Narrators of Our Story
- 37:52 Be Consistent with Your Boundaries
- 42:36 We All Want to Be Liked
- 45:46 You’re Not Ready to Marry Yet
- 49:51 Practice Being Your True Self All the Time
- 52:36 The Blind Spots of Dating
- 57:08 The Truth About Future Tripping
- 01:00:10 How Do You Feel About the Other Person?
- 01:01:33 The 7-Year Mark of Marriages
- 01:03:50 Can Having Children Save a Marriage?
- 01:07:35 In-Law Issues is a Couple Issue
- 01:12:01 The Concept of Feeling Felt
- 01:16:50 How Long Can You Tolerate Disrespect from Your Partner?
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