The First Arrow Is Out of Our Control

The Buddha is subject to conditions that are beyond its control. Realizing that the first arrow is out of our control is really the beginning of actually bringing more awareness. We can't heal the suffering until we least the self blame. So for sam, you know, when he he described that that experience with his wife, i invited him to re run it. And what he found was, underneath the anger, some sense of being demeaned. His anger was coming out of a sense of deficiency.