"I had 12 realizations over those 12 hours that basically really helped me to get past it so over the night of course like I get really really upset and then I counteract it with a disaster from my past," she said. "Pain is a strength is built on pain you know and I studied Buddhism for 12 years and it was like the idea of impermanence nothing lasts foreverYou know and eventually things get easier." She's now writing a book called How To Get Over Be Trail in 12 hours because so many people you speak to, they're devastated and they're upset for so long but most people you talk to five ten years later say oh god it was such a good thing or