When you look defensive it makes you look people see weakness in defensiveness. One of the biggest problems with our culture is this theory that has been propagated by social scientists sadly that words are violence. The idea that somebody insulting you is the same thing as hitting you over the head of the baseball bat and that's just pure nonsense right I mean I can come up with a hundred studies that show that it affects the door saw interior singular cortex of the brain which is a part of the neocortex above the limbic system that's stimulated by both mental and physical pain. It actually stimulates the same part of the brain when your girlfriend breaks up with you and when you stub your toe. And