"I don't even know if I would have reconciled that with my mom to be honest. It was only over the past couple years, handful of years that I've even become aware of that so-called boundary structure." "You as an adult are entitled to do two things. Honor your mother's story but you also have the right to honor the impact that had on your life," she says. 'If I honoring the impact and dealing with that, you're not just honoring her memory'