Honest Conversations, Cultural Narratives, Couple's Role

Welcome to Elevator Systems! This episode explores all of the complexities of when families combine in stepfamily relationships and how Bowen family systems theory can be a resource. Kathleen Cotter Cauley is back on the elevator, sharing her thoughts and experiences with Dixie Vandersluys and Katie White.

Kathleen Cotter Cauley is a licensed marriage and family therapist and has a private practice in both Virginia and Florida. She’s a faculty member of the Bowen Center and was involved in founding the Florida Family Research Network. Her thinking on triangles has been published in the book “Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Perspectives” by Peter Titelman. Kathleen has been married for almost 40 years, is a stepmom, a stepdaughter, and a grandma. 

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Stepfamilies provide a unique opportunity to apply Bowen family systems theory to the complex dynamics
• Managing anxiety and working on self-differentiation are important in navigating stepfamily challenges
• Understanding the roles and expectations for each member of a stepfamily can help in managing transition and integration processes
• The importance of curiosity about each family member's perspective and experience
• The useful framework of the family diagram and family history 
• Examples include: personal experience and Hollywood examples including the movie “Stepmom”, the classic “wicked stepmother", and “The Brady Bunch”

For anyone who is connected to a blended family. This episode offers a unique perspective and framework to think through and manage the complex dynamics of stepfamily life. 

Terms you don’t understand? We have episodes on all 8 concepts of Bowen theory and other ideas in Elevator Systems Seasons 1 & 2.

Recommended Resources:

• The Murray Bowen Archives Project 
• Monica McGoldrick & Betty Carter: The Family Life Cycle
• Roberta Gilbert, “On Stepparenting” Family Systems Forum, Winter 2009, Vol 10 No4

• Dr. Daniel Papero: Developing A Systems Model for Family Assessment
• Kathleen Smith: The Cycle of Overfunctioning and Distance
• Family Matters: Navigating the Blended Family Maze
• Peter Titelman, Ed: Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives

New podcast episodes released every Tuesday this season—stay tuned as we explore relationships across the lifespan! 

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast is general information about Bowen family systems theory and is not considered the practice of counselling or therapy.  The information presented are the views of the people who say them. Any information used from this podcast is used at your own risk.