Should Christians Give When Their Spouse Disagrees? (what to do when your spouse says 'no')
SeedTime with Bob and Linda Lotich
A listener's dilemma: giving when spouse disagrees
Bob frames the listener question about one spouse wanting to give half their income while the other disagrees.
Today, Bob & Linda open up about one of the hardest seasons of their marriage — a months-long battle over a life-altering decision that left them in tears, confusion, and deep disunity. What they learned in that painful stretch has become the backbone of how they help couples navigate money disagreements today… especially when one spouse feels called by God to give and the other isn't on board.
If you've ever wrestled with:"What do I do when I feel God nudging me to give — but my spouse isn't there?"…this episode will minister to you deeply.
Together, they unpack four biblical principles for staying unified, honoring God, and discerning His timing — without forcing agreement or abandoning conviction.
KEY TOPICS COVERED
✔️ The Lowe's Parking Lot BreakdownBob shares the raw story of the only moment he thought their marriage might not make it — and how God used that season to refine both of their hearts.
✔️ Why the enemy always pushes "either/or" thinkingAnd how God always has a third option you haven't seen yet.
✔️ What to do when you feel called to give… and your spouse doesn't.A practical, grace-filled approach that protects unity and honors conviction.
✔️ The timing principle: when a word from God is real, but not for right now. A simple budgeting tool that can reduce giving conflicts instantly:Using individual "spending money" accounts without hiding money.
✔️ How to pray when you're frustrated, angry, or absolutely sure you're right.(With two real prayers Bob & Linda actually use.)
SCRIPTURES MENTIONED (NLT)
- James 1:2–5 — Endurance, wisdom, and the refinement of trials.
- Romans 8:28 — God working all things for good.
- Ephesians 5 — Mutual love and honor in marriage.
- 1 Peter 5:7 — Cast your cares on Him.
Set aside one night to pray.
- Don't solve the issue.
- Don't debate it.
- Simply pray for unity, wisdom, and softened hearts — together if possible.
If your spouse is not a believer or unwilling: Pray alone and gently reaffirm to them, "I'm not going to move forward without your blessing."
Then… go on a date. Restore friendship first.
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