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Many people with ADHD, especially women, consider themselves people pleasers. It can become a habit to start putting others first without thinking, even when it goes against what we really want. This can lead to some resentment down the line. 

This week on Tips from an ADHD Coach, Jaye talks about how pleasing others all the time can turn from selfless into self-serving. Listen for tips on what to do if we’ve spent our whole lives trying to please others at a cost to ourselves. 

Related resources

• ADHD and rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD)
• Setting boundaries in relationships with ADHD
• Core values exercise

Timestamps

(00:39) Laura’s quote

(03:08) ADHD and people pleasing

(07:49) When people pleasing changes from selfless to self-serving

(10:37) What can we do?

(13:25) Recap 

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Tips from an ADHD Coach show page on Understood.org. 

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