Attachment Styles and Self-Regulation

You can be successful, confident, and unstoppable in business: and still lose your edge when it comes to love.

In this episode of Habits & Hustle, I sit down with Alejandra Maria, a dating strategist and viral creator who helps ambitious women stop chasing and start leading with self-respect.

We talk about what it really means to have emotional discipline, the ability to pause before reacting, to stay calm instead of proving your worth, and to walk away instead of negotiating for respect. Alejandra breaks down how “no contact” can be a power move, not a game, and why emotional diversification is the secret to staying grounded when everything feels personal.

If you’re the kind of woman who thrives under pressure but keeps losing your balance in relationships, this one’s for you. We unpack how to bring the same clarity and control you have in business into your emotional life, without losing your softness or your power.

Alejandra Maria has built a global audience of nearly a million women with her unapologetic, emotionally intelligent take on modern dating. Her insights have been featured in Newsweek, Girlboss, and more. And she’s redefining what it means to be “high value” in love and life.

What We Discuss:

• (04:10) Why high-achieving women often lose power in love

• (06:05) The difference between emotional discipline and emotional suppression

• (08:42) “You can’t outwork emotional chaos”: bringing business mindset into dating

• (12:30) How “no contact” became the most powerful boundary you can set

• (18:20) Emotional diversification: spreading your energy beyond one relationship

• (25:14) Why confidence isn’t control, it’s composure

• (33:47) The signs you’re over-functioning in relationships

• (42:30) How to stop chasing and start being chosen

• (51:12) The mindset shift from proving your worth to holding your power

• (58:40) How to regulate emotions like you train your body: consistency over chaos

      …and more!

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