How to Talk to Yourself When You're Uncomfortable

I have a I really have this thing where like whenever I'm in rooms with people I feel like it's my job to make sure that they're comfortable. So when I feel like I might be the reason why they're uncomfortable it probably has something to do with me feeling like if I don't make people comfortable that I'm not worthy. Sometimes I'll just stay in my office even when I want to go like out into the kitchen and get something to eat and I'm like maybe I'll just starve today. And you'll like eat you'll pee on yourself because you're staying in there. Exactly. All of the above like starving and wet pants you know the bad combo. Well