i always get a little shaky when i read my words, and i still do too. I felt good writing that poem, and it's still part of me. But in the exile was am a piece of me that wants to be home, wants to feel safe. My body just started panicking, and it never stopped for six weeks,. hasn't it am? And i've been learning from it, learning deeply. Like, what's here? If this was so clearly my truth, why does my body feel like this? So i made a commitment to be with the feelings, and am not to gaslight them and not to bi pass them, and to listen to them.
One of my best podcasts of all time, this emotional conversation that’s been 16 years in the making, is with my wife Vylana Marcus and former fiance / best friend Caitlyn Howe. We sit down with a bottle of whiskey and let it all out. We each take turns sharing our darkest hours and deepest shadows, with a lot of tears and a lot of laughs. We discuss my devastating 6 days in a darkness retreat, my ongoing relationship with self-love, the impetus of my name change from Chris to Aubrey Marcus, and the erotic aspect of harming oneself, to name a few themes. But perhaps most powerfully, Vylana and Caitlyn share their own shocking and emotional challenges in their relationship to the masculine.