The postpartum stage can be one of the hardest (and least talked about) seasons a couple will ever go through.
Your relationship changes. Your body changes. Your sex life changes.
And with all of that comes a swirl of feelings you might not have expected:
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Resentment toward your partner
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A crushing imbalance in the mental load
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Feeling “touched out” 24/7
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Nervousness (or fear) about having sex again
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Worries about your body never feeling — or looking — the same
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The awkward, elephant-in-the-room disconnection that can build over months
In this episode, we’re answering YOUR most personal, vulnerable questions about intimacy and connection after having kids — from being scared to get pregnant again, to changes in sensation, to finding your spark when you feel more like co-managers than romantic partners.
💛 Here’s what we’re covering:
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Why being “cleared” for sex at 6 weeks doesn’t mean you have to be ready
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How to break the silence when it’s been months (or longer) since you’ve been intimate
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What to do if sex is painful after a tear or complicated delivery
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Navigating body image, “too loose” worries, and changes in arousal triggers
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How to reconnect when parenting has taken over every ounce of energy
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Advice for partners who struggle to see their spouse sexually after birth
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The most powerful way a partner can make a new mom feel truly seen, appreciated, and desired
Whether you’re weeks postpartum or years down the road, this conversation is a reminder that you’re not broken, you’re not alone, and you can find your way back to each other.
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From “Where do babies come from?” to “What does 69 mean?” 😳, Beyond the Birds & the Bees gives you the exact words to say in just 5–7 minutes per topic.
A complete digital parenting tool-kit. Think bite-sized, age-by-age audio guides and real-life scripts make even the trickiest conversations easier — so your kids learn about sex, consent, identity, and relationships from you, not TikTok.
Start today ➡️ https://vmtherapy.com/kids
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