Teaching Your Kids How to Feel Your Feelings

I just did a little post on instagram, like a little story. I was answering some one's question. They had a question for me that's like, hey, i just found your page. I really love it. And i'm trying to help my kids by having positive sex talks with them and trying to be open with them about sex. But i don't know what to tell em to do when they want to go look at poor and erlik,. When they have these urges to act out in these sexual behaviours that are against our family values. If we can teach em how to feel their feelings and to feel their urges in other ways, in other areas of life, without