Speaker 2
It feels a bit conflicting, doesn't it, though, because when you say four thousand weeks, it sounds, as you said, like an extraordinarily short period of time. And so part of you want to act on that and jump on that and squeeze in everything that you possibly could and be the best possible version of yourself. And then, as you said, another part of you things, relax, enjoy those four thousand weeks. I totally
Speaker 1
understand that first response, right? It's like, this is so short, i'd better go, like, do extreme sports every week end. I'd better travelto 20 different locations in the course of six months. Th, you know, to really can have suck the juice out of out of life. But i think that's actually ultimately another example of this perfectionistic mind set, right? It's almost the desire to live for ever by another means. It's like, ok, i'm not going to get to live for ever, so i'm going to do as much as i would get done if i did live forever. It's sort of scratching the same itch. And when you can just let it permeate through your self a little bit, that that this is never going to happen, that that if you managed to visit a hundred places in the course of this year, you would, you would just have been exposed to a thousand more thoughts about more places that you might want to go. And that sort of dynamic is repetative, like getting through stuff actually generates the more stuff to want to want to get through. That's when you can relax into it, because you can sort of stop stressing about trying to make it something that it isn't. And yet, as you also point out, i really importantly, we can then drop, at least to some extent, this notion that when i finally get my financial security sorted out, or my relationship sorted out, or when i finally become apparent, or when the kids leave for university, like that's the moment that everything is going to get in in perfect running order in my life. You can sort of, you can realize that theres can going to be a moment of truth. And that's kind of brilliant, i think.
