Couples Therapy - The Magic of Change

When people come in for couples therapy, i always give them an assignment before they come in. The magic of this is that they say, well, what's the point of doing it if they're not going to change? So when you do something differently, you are helping the other person to change. If you start changing, if you make it easier, you help them to change by making it easier for them to change. Give them some space. Let's say, you know, you try to control them less. Don't engage in the same familiar argument over and over and over a you do something kind for them. You need to go first because someone needs to do someone. It