Stephanie Coontz: "I just want praise. But there's another competing part of me that wants to get better" Do you seek out end or desire honest assessments of things you do? i was asking for numeric ratings on dinner, like k skale, from zero to ten. How are we rating tientalatas? Seven and how could i make it in eight? Did you accept that? Ya. Some students have told me, like, i'm a little condescending. And i name drop. That's the exact kind of criticism i should be open to.