Unhelpful Responses to Schemes

Schema, surrender refers to ways in which people passively give end to the scheme. For instance, a person with an abandonment or instability scheme might choose partners who are unable commit to long term relationships. I tell my patients on a weakly basis that, above feeling good, we want to be right. If you believe something to be true, you will do everything in your power to create that reality, even at the expense of your own happiness. When we don't have awareness, it's impossible to make changes.