June 2021 is allllll about attachment! We kicked off this special series on attachment last week with my interview with author Bethany Saltman and her memoir "Strange Situation."
Today- we are going back to basics.
Attachment is something that gets a lot of airtime but also, a lot of confusion.
In today's episode we'll talk about John Bolwby and how he brilliantly noticed that attachment is about physical (and emotional) survival.
We explore the difference between safe haven and secure base, and about how attachment is both about connection and autonomy.
We look at the three attachment behaviors Bowlby identified:
- Seek, monitor, and maintain proximity
- Use the attachment figure as the secure base
- Flee to their attachment figure when afraid
Going Back to Basics certainly means highlighting the work of Mary Ainsworth, which ultimately led to The Strange Situation and the attachment classifications we now know as secure and insecure.
I'm a big fan of scaffolding (which you know if you're a member of The Club or you've taken Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and Brain online digital course) so consider this episode an important part of the scaffolding of attachment. We've got to get clear on the basics before moving on!
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