i was ina on and off again relationship for a very long time, like 15 years. And i loved thi this person very much. It was like we bute, we were not able to like make it work. Why is it still so enticing t have that sort of chaotic caano chaos in the relationship? I would say there's two parts to this answer. The first is suncos fallacy, which is usually a term used more in economic ratesIt explains this cognitive a distortion, this thinking error where we put good money into a bad deal.