In this intimate episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily teams up with Dr. Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and body-based trauma expert, to explore how vocalizing pleasure can transform your intimate experiences. From a candid discussion about their couples massage experience in Vegas to practical advice on overcoming sexual silence, this episode reveals why making authentic sounds during sex creates deeper connection and more intense pleasure.
We dive into the psychology behind sexual silence, examining how childhood conditioning, shame, and societal expectations keep us quiet when we should be expressing ourselves. Dr. Scott explains the nervous system science behind vocalization, including how making sounds stimulates the vagus nerve and helps regulate our bodies during intimate moments. We also tackle the difference between authentic pleasure sounds and performative moaning influenced by porn culture.
This episode addresses common concerns like being too loud with roommates or kids in the house, offers practical exercises for gradually increasing your vocal expression, and explores how sound creates crucial feedback loops between partners. Whether you're naturally quiet or overly performative, you'll learn how to find your authentic voice of pleasure.
Show Notes:
00:00:00 - The Vegas Massage Story: Learning from Authentic Sound
03:00:00 - Why We Stay Silent During Pleasure
06:41:00 - Men, Masturbation & the Culture of Quiet Sex
08:26:00 - Sound as Nervous System Regulation
11:07:00 - Authentic vs. Performative Vocalization
15:38:00 - The Sixth Limb: Your Voice as Extension of Your Body
18:06:00 - Shame, Control & Sexual Expression
23:10:00 - Practical Exercises: Touch for Pleasure Practice
28:14:00 - Sensory Play & Exploration
30:04:00 - Parents, Kids & Sexual Noise Concerns
33:08:00 - The 10% Challenge: Starting Small
Join Dr. Emily and Dr. Scott as they share personal insights and professional expertise on breaking through sexual silence to unlock deeper pleasure and connection. This episode includes a live demonstration and practical homework to help you discover your authentic voice of pleasure.
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