People are social creatures. They enjoy being able to help somebody else. But the trick thing is that nobody wants to be settled with the entire responsibility of some one else's well being. So like people who refuse to ask for help for a very long period of time, thy don't haveany practice doing it. And when they finally need it, it's like they break down or they have something horrible experience and it's like dramatic. The longer you know someone, the more likely they will be willing to expend some amount of effort. When i was talking abut this with one of my frends yesterday, it was like, it feels almost like cheating, or like a hack,