How to Stop Letting Your Job or Relationships Define You | Twinkle Stanly
The Balance Theory
Losing Yourself in Relationships
Erika and Twinkle reflect on past relationships that consumed identity and the shock of rebuilding afterward.
If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking “who am I without my job?” or felt your identity slipping when a relationship ends… this episode is going to hit home.
Today I’m joined by Twinkle Stanly, content creator, speaker, and the woman behind one of the most relatable pivots online right now. We dive deep into what it actually feels like to walk away from a life that looks “fine” on paper, but no longer feels aligned.
If you’ve been questioning your path, feeling disconnected from who you are, or stuck between wanting more and not knowing where to begin -this conversation will help you find clarity, confidence, and your true identity again.
In this episode, we unpack:
💭 Leaving a job you didn’t hate - but still knowing you’re meant for more
💭 Why so many women tie their identity to job titles, achievements or relationships
💭 Finding the courage to pivot without proof that it will work out
💭 The fear of losing your labels and rebuilding who you are without them
💭 Why your niche is YOU (and why overthinking it keeps you stuck)
💭 How to detach from people’s opinions and trust your inner knowing
💭 Spiritual vs strategic confidence and the mindset that gets you moving again
Whether you’re going through a transition, craving reinvention, or trying to reconnect with yourself… this episode will remind you that you are allowed to choose a new life, even if the old one wasn’t “bad.”
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TIME STAMPS
(01:14) You didn’t hate your job, but you still quit?
(05:14) How did you get the confidence to post your first video?
(08:14) This should be your niche
(11:44) My identity being tied to a relationship
(13:18) I’m good at rejecting people’s opinion of me
(15:59) Advice for people wanting to have more abundant thoughts
(18:47) Losing yourself to relationships
(20:16) What are you not prepared to settle for?
(28:29) Social Media Addiction
(33:39) Stop relying on ChatGPT
(40:12) Is success spiritual or strategic?
WHO AM I?
My name is Erika and I am an Australian living in Dubai. I have my own business as a strategic legal consultant and run this podcast to explore my passion + curiosity for all things health, wellness, self growth & mindset. A big focus of mine is how to sustainably navigate a busy schedule and live my best life in the process. Welcome to my Channel! 📸 Connect with me on IG!
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