Speaker 1
Think about how stagnant and stationary you are in those positions, right? When you're watching porn, you're lying down, you're sitting, whatever it is, you're hunched over a computer screen, you're very sedentary, you're very stationary. That's not conducive for pleasure. That's not conducive for full body pleasure.
Speaker 2
Hey guys, welcome back to another episode. I am very pleased to have with me today, Cam Fraser, who is one of the top sex coaches in Australia. And shout out to all my listeners down under, I believe you're our first Australian guest or maybe our second Australian guest. But thanks for being here. I'm excited to talk to you about sexual mastery in men or penis owners, whatever term you prefer.
Speaker 2
I'm curious to hear a little about your trajectory from not being a sex coach to being a sex coach, which I would imagine involves some of your own personal transformation around this because most of us are not trained in sexual mastery, semen retention, things like that are sort of foreign concepts to a lot of people in the West, especially. So how did you get your start? When did you find this field?
Speaker 1
I guess in a nutshell, like my, because my story is quite long. So I'll be concise, I guess. But it started like, as you mentioned, with my own exploration of my own sexuality, I suppose. Like when I was 17, I left Australia to go and study and play soccer for a university over in America. And the first university I went to was in, it was in Georgia. So it was in the deep south. It was very conservative Christian. And the tagline of the university I went to was unapologetically Baptist. So it was very conservative and fundamentalist. And so the community that I was in, like this little rural town in Georgia, like, there's a lot of sexual shame and a lot of like guilt and like religious like repression, I suppose. And, and so like, there was a lot of young people putting themselves in like unsafe sexual situations because there was no sex ed there, right? Premarital sex was a sin. Homosexuality was a sin. You know, I took a class there as part of my degree that I was studying, which was psychology, uh, which was Christian approaches to human sexuality. And so you can kind of imagine the, the take that they would have had on, on sexuality. Um, it was very stereotypical. Uh, and the, um, yeah. And so like, that was a big light bulb moment for me. I was like, holy shit. Like these young people that are not sure like how to express themselves not sure how to talk to people they're attracted to like there was a lot of this is quite interesting there was a lot of like young men stalking young women um because they weren't they didn't know how to talk to to these people they're attracted to um there was a lot of, like I said, people putting themselves in unsafe situations that were usually alcohol induced as well. So on the weekends, college kids go out, get really drunk, have pretty unsafe sex because they were not taught how to do it safely. And then on Sunday morning, they all go back to church and repent essentially. And so layered that guilt onto the weekend encounters. There was a lot lot of emotional abuse in relationships a lot of young people staying in relationships because they thought that's what they were supposed to do there was a lot of like shame around ending a relationship and then because there was no contraceptive education there was a lot of teen pregnancies there's a lot of young you know young women getting pregnant and um people getting married really young as well because that was like they wanted to have sex and premarital sex was off the table so in order to have sex you you got kind of got married and and so it was it was it was a lot for me coming from Australia to kind of be in that space and so I learned um, pretty quickly, I was like, wow, sex education is something that's super needed. And, um, and that, so like, that was my first big light bulb was being in that community. The second big light bulb was, um, like my own experience. So I, um, I was playing soccer, like I said, but I seriously injured my back. I actually fractured my, my lower back fractured my spine. And, and it kind of forced me to, to slow down and, and like, it forced me to confront some things like I, as, as part of like my college kind of persona, let's say, right. I came from Australia, I kind of reinvented myself going to America and I don't know what it is, but maybe you'll agree with this or people listening will agree with this, but Americans love Australians for some reason. I don't know why, but I was very well received. Me and my Australian mates were very