How to Soften Hardened Beliefs

Almost all along, it was just I had no way to communicate that to her. She's lived these years really thinking something was wrong. And I'm wondering just to listen in and sense what would you need to hear or feel from you right this moment,. They might just begin to soften that, that hardened belief. What would most help just in this moment? You're much more than you think you are and you feel you are.