Anxiety Is a Byproduct of Not Including All Our Feelings

The way we feel about ourselves is utterly discordant with the stories we tell. The discrepancy between our internal felt self and our explicit self narrative, or egoic appraisal, creates anxiety. If somebody has secret desires to not be strong and just vulnerably connect with others, but friends are very macho then they'll have these parts of themselves that they cannot show to others.