Loss of touch erodes bonding over time

Adam and Lisa discuss how reduced touching lowers vasopressin/oxytocin, increases cortisol, and can lead to divorce.

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Welcome to a powerful edition of Women of Impact with host Lisa Bilyeu, joined by renowned couples therapist and attachment expert, Adam Lane Smith. Adam has spent over fifteen years helping thousands of couples and individuals overcome barriers to deep, meaningful connection… and today, he's here to unravel the hidden truths behind intimacy, sex, and relationship dynamics that most women have never been taught.

In this first half, Adam and Lisa cut through popular misconceptions about intimacy, exploring why men and women seem to speak different emotional languages, especially when it comes to sex and bonding. They dive into the science of attachment, hormones, and brain chemistry, revealing practical strategies for triggering true emotional connection with men… both inside and outside of the bedroom. Whether you’re single, dating, or committed, this episode will challenge the myths holding you back and give you the tools to build trust, safety, and lasting partnership. Tune in for actionable advice, relatable stories, and an honest look at the pitfalls of modern dating.

Show Notes

Why Men and Women Don’t Speak the Same Language in Sex

The Science Behind Sex, Trust, and Emotional Bonding

Three Ways to Create Emotional Bonding During Sex

The Four Levels of Male Safety Every Woman Needs

Four Levels of Peace Women Bring to Relationships

How to Spot Manipulative vs. Avoidant Men

Narcissism, Contempt, and Behavioral Red Flags

Excessive Need for Control: Avoidant vs. Manipulative Dynamics

Shifting Blame: Insecurity vs. Deliberate Manipulation

Boundaries: Violated Ethics and Core Goals

When Men See You as an Object, Not a Partner