Understanding Codependency: Care or Control?

This chapter explores the fine line between caring and controlling behaviors in relationships, particularly within codependent dynamics. It highlights the need for self-awareness to break free from harmful patterns that impact emotional independence.

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Welcome to another transformative episode of "Women of Impact"! Today, Lisa Bilyeu sits down with the remarkable Terri Cole, author of "Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High Functioning Codependency," to dive deep into the concept of high functioning codependency (HFC).

Join Lisa and Terri as they explore how HFC manifests in even the most successful individuals, leading to over-functioning, emotional exhaustion, and self-abandonment. In this episode, you'll discover the importance of honest communication, prioritizing your own needs, and shifting from codependent to interdependent relationship dynamics. Lisa shares personal anecdotes, including experiences with her husband, Tom, to illustrate the journey from assumption to clear communication.

Additionally, Terri provides valuable insights on avoiding "martyr syndrome" and making intentional choices that foster healthier relationships. Whether you're an empathetic helper or a successful leader, this conversation will equip you with the tools to reassess your behaviors and embrace a more balanced and fulfilling approach to life. Stay tuned for this eye-opening discussion!

SHOWNOTES

00:00 Building support and empowerment for women online.

04:33 Codependency isn't limited to alcohol-related situations.

08:50 Managing family dynamics to avoid conflict is common.

11:24 Identify resentment to improve relationship dynamics.

13:38 Identify feelings, communicate openly, resolve imbalance collaboratively.

17:52 Navigating differing personal values and expectations.

22:21 Encourages mindful choices, reducing compulsive reactions.

26:01 Support loved ones by asking expansive questions.

27:35 Family roles transcend birth order expectations.

30:57 Book insights transformed my relationship with Tom.

34:51 Check out Women of Impact for interview.