Many of us try to replace porn with something like connection, but it doesn't work. Connection is much better than pornography long term. The problem is as that often we don't trust ourselves and we're afraid of our bodies. And so we think we need to do something to control this urge. Youre feeling this urge, and you don't really trust yourself. It's safe and it's ok to say no to your cravings. I had a conversation with my o sister in law once. She was telling me about how she'd quit soda. That in her mind for so long, it was like, i can't feel this urge, i can’t feel this desire