How to Learn From What Happens to You

Learning has to be something that, in the context we are working at, and personally with ourselves. It's not experience, butwill here cot that i read when i was young on a book: "It is what we learn from what happens to us" I have seen colleagues that have had a lot of incidents, either good or bad, negative or positive. And they never deluded it. They never went and reflected back to it to find out what happened. Why do we folks on the one that is wrong, and we don't try to see how dit all those things have been gon? Otherwise this dangest would a wok? And learn from that as well