Mental Health Hot Takes #3
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
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Dr Kirk Honda reacts to mental health hot takes from the listeners. November 19, 2025
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.
00:00 Intro
01:16 There should be therapy for friends
03:55 Therapists incentivise their clients to act immorally
04:41 Self improvement is a loop that leads to dissatisfaction
05:37 There is a lack of resilience of those born after 1990
12:09 Highlighting your inner child implies adults shouldn't act like that
13:36 Modalities of therapy are just placebo
14:57 Post-partum is just pathologizing women
18:24 People with high trauma & anxiety hide behind introversion
21:46 Diffusion of mental health concepts complicates conversation
22:09 Psychopaths can be good people
24:35 Too many people have ADHD
24:55 Poor mental health is persisted by poor living conditions
27:13 Licensed experts should have social media badges
31:55 People need to learn how to deal with discomfort
32:17 Disassociation should be prevented
34:38 'I don't owe anyone anything' makes society cold
35:09 Caring vs. worrying for myself
35:41 Pathology vs human experience
37:26 Some cultures need less therapy
38:14 Self diagnosis should not be taken seriously
38:35 Jungian typology is helpful
38:46 Emergency responders struggle the most with their relationships
40:35 Those that put others above themself care less about themself
40:57 Empowering women intimidates men
42:09 Too much therapy can be harmful
42:45 Beating yourself doesn't lead to healing
43:12 Avoiding hugs is from trauma
47:26 There is no such thing as faking mental illness for attention
51:08 Online dating advice is useless
53:39 You can be autistic and an asshole
54:24 Not showing up for your friends isn't holding boundaries
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This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.
00:00 Intro
01:16 There should be therapy for friends
03:55 Therapists incentivise their clients to act immorally
04:41 Self improvement is a loop that leads to dissatisfaction
05:37 There is a lack of resilience of those born after 1990
12:09 Highlighting your inner child implies adults shouldn't act like that
13:36 Modalities of therapy are just placebo
14:57 Post-partum is just pathologizing women
18:24 People with high trauma & anxiety hide behind introversion
21:46 Diffusion of mental health concepts complicates conversation
22:09 Psychopaths can be good people
24:35 Too many people have ADHD
24:55 Poor mental health is persisted by poor living conditions
27:13 Licensed experts should have social media badges
31:55 People need to learn how to deal with discomfort
32:17 Disassociation should be prevented
34:38 'I don't owe anyone anything' makes society cold
35:09 Caring vs. worrying for myself
35:41 Pathology vs human experience
37:26 Some cultures need less therapy
38:14 Self diagnosis should not be taken seriously
38:35 Jungian typology is helpful
38:46 Emergency responders struggle the most with their relationships
40:35 Those that put others above themself care less about themself
40:57 Empowering women intimidates men
42:09 Too much therapy can be harmful
42:45 Beating yourself doesn't lead to healing
43:12 Avoiding hugs is from trauma
47:26 There is no such thing as faking mental illness for attention
51:08 Online dating advice is useless
53:39 You can be autistic and an asshole
54:24 Not showing up for your friends isn't holding boundaries
Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/join
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Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.honda
The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®
Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.
Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything yo
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