Is Your Partner Don't Tax You Every Day?

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i have a history of making bed choices when he comes to romantic partners. And i don't know that we can truly be ourselves and truly being loved without taking some sort of a scary step towards being truthful to our feelings. I think sometimes one of the most destructive things in relationships is us having the idea that we shouldn't have to ask, or we shouldn't need to explain. It seems like you're never going to meet someone who just knows all the time. That's not a possible person. No. You might find that the other persons p havi, that couldt do a checkin cheks beforere going to work.

Does it ever feel like you—or someone you know—is always entering a relationship that’s doomed? According to psychology researcher, Dr. Raquel Peel, you may be falling victim to a surprising foe—yourself. Raquel studies “romantic self-sabotage,” the patterns and behaviors that can keep a person from having successful relationships, or justify their failures. In this episode, she outlines common destructive habits to watch out for, and gives guidance on how to recover if you spiral into sabotage. Raquel is a Psychology and Counselling Lecturer at the University of Southern Queensland. Her research interests include relationships, suicide, bullying, stigma, medical education and research methodology. Originally from Brazil, Raquel currently lives in Brisbane, Australia, with her husband Matthew, their two cats Tigre and Patera, Miniature Pinscher, Lobinha, and Doberman, Urso. To learn more about "How to Be a Better Human," host Chris Duffy, or find footnotes and additional resources, please visit: go.ted.com/betterhuman