I Want You to Want Me and I Want to Want You

In the modern world, we are proud of ourselves for allowing just a flowering of a much wider space of relations. But then it's going to have to put us at a disadvantage in figuring out what the other person thinks about our relation right because there's maybe dozens or thousands of different possible things we could be creating here. And I think we have a kind of gestural language that helps us perform the I want you to want me and I want youto want me to want you and etc. Good so this, you know, we can integrate this with other sorts of social framings which might be thought of more in terms of social construction or convention.