How do we all become a bit more like you in extracting useful information without punishing ourselve, or again, without comparing ourselves per say? I think having some self awareness, noticing being mindful is key. And if you can notice whether that is having a motivational effect on you, then you're more than half way there. If you want to train yourself to make fewer comparisons, or make comparisons and learn from them and not get demotivated by them, you cain have to set yourself up for some small winds.