No Stupid Questions 13. How Can You Stop Comparing Yourself With Other People?
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Aug 9, 2020 The harmful effects of comparing yourself to others take center stage, shedding light on its emotional toll. The conversation dives into the psychology behind social comparisons, especially in our tech-driven world. Biographical narratives reveal the complexities of interpreting life stories, while the narrative fallacy shows how we oversimplify realities into neat tales, ignoring luck's role. Lastly, the discussion about money's influence on success challenges common beliefs, highlighting media's transformative power in society.
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Mindful Comparison
- Notice when you're making social comparisons and analyze their impact on your motivation.
- Withhold judgment and try to learn from others instead of feeling demotivated.
Costs of Comparison
- Social comparison has costs; upward comparisons can lead to sadness, insecurity, and quitting.
- Downward comparisons might offer temporary ego boosts but aren't a good long-term strategy.
Comparison Examples
- Angela Duckworth used to think, "What would Carol Dweck do?"
- A man experienced competitive parenting, feeling inadequate compared to other parents, leading to a downward spiral.