Are You Doing More Harm Than Good to Be an Abolitionist?

I think the abolitionists who perhaps have done more harm than good are those who have actually spent a lot of time and energy in trying to thwart the incrementalists. That's really really such a waste I thinkYeah I remember reading I don't know where you said that or even if you said this because I read somebody had said that you had said it maybe you didn't but they said something like you will once asked if you if you order a meal at a restaurant and it comes with with cheese on top or something and you've got the choice between sending it back and saying you know give give me what I asked for  or just kind of shrugging your shoulders and eating it