114. The Resistant Client Series: Replace It! (w/ Corrective Emotional & Co-regulating Experiences)
The Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy
Understanding Client Resistance
This chapter discusses how to address resistant clients by exploring their emotional dysregulation and the protective functions of resistance. It emphasizes fostering a supportive environment to transform perceptions of relationships, ultimately building trust and emotional connection.
Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other.
Overview and Themes:
This podcast episode is the finale of the "Resistant Client Series," focusing on how therapists can transform client resistance into opportunities for deeper emotional connection and healing.
Main Themes:
1. Understanding Resistance as Protective Behavior
- Resistance isn't a problem to eliminate, but a weight-bearing mechanism protecting relationship dynamics
- Every resistant stance has an attachment significance
- Clients aren't being difficult; they're managing deep emotional fears
2. Theory of Change in EFT
- Replace resistance with corrective emotional experiences
- Help clients make clear emotional signals
- Enable partners to provide compassionate comfort
- Support clients in truly receiving and embodying that comfort
3. Clinical Wisdom
- Don't lose hope with challenging clients
- Trust the attachment map
- Be intentional about vulnerability in therapeutic interventions
- Focus on helping clients understand their own emotional experiences
Closing Summary:
In the intricate dance of human connection, resistance is not an obstacle, but a doorway. Each defensive stance whispers a profound story of fear, longing, and the desperate hope to be truly seen and loved. As therapists, our sacred work is not to dismantle these protective walls, but to gently illuminate the tender heart beating behind them.
We are architects of hope, helping couples rediscover the language of vulnerability, transforming cycles of pain into rhythms of connection. Every moment of resistance carries within it the seed of healing - waiting to be understood, honored, and transformed.
Keep pushing the leading edge. Keep believing in love's remarkable capacity to heal.
Upcoming events, if you would like to train with James or Ryan…
- You can do a joint Core Skills (Colorado) with Lisa J. Palmer-Olsen & Dr. James Hawkins. Core Skills Modules 1 and 2 will be held October 8-10, 2025, and Core Skills Modules 3 and 4 will be held January 7-9, 2026. You can register at https://courses.efft.org/courses/2025-core-skills-colorado.
- October 15-18, 2025, you can do an Externship with James in beautiful Bend, Oregon. You can register at https://www.counseloregon.com.
- You can train with Ryan, as well as George Faller, doing a live and some time with James, at the annual Arkansas EFT Center externship. July 29-August 1, 2025, in person, in Fayetteville, Arkansas. https://www.arkansaseft.com/events/externship
- We would like to invite everyone to come hang out and learn with the SV team at the first-ever SV Focus Lab. This is an advanced, EFCT training intending to push the edge with a focus on nuance in application, illuminating EFT and Sue’s incredible model.”
- You can learn more and register by going to https://www.svfocuslab.com. Leading edge listeners who register before July 1 with the code svfocuslab.com/leadingedge get a 10% discount.
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We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.
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