Are You Always the Giver? That's a Defense.

What we're talking about again is projection and caretaking. What we're saying is look deeply at the motivation at the intent. And so just like Ann said, we can care take in order to get rid of somebodylike here have a Kleenex and clean that up right? That's not really caring. It's like move away or if somebody wants a donation, you know, you write a you write a small check and like go move on. Or let me be compliant even if you don't think they're going to hear complaint so that I feel so better than you or so much better. Do always be the giver. That gets us into the second part of this bucket