Sadia Khan: Stop Ignoring Red Flags! (How to Train Your Brain to Know When To Walk Away)
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Understanding Relationships: The Role of Self-Esteem and Communication
This chapter explores how self-esteem shapes our connections with others, emphasizing its role in recognizing unhealthy dynamics. It addresses issues like ghosting and infidelity, underscoring the necessity of effective communication in navigating relationship challenges.
Does anything in your life feel a little “off” right now?
Do you feel like you're settling for less than you deserve?
Today, Jay sits down with Sadia Khan, psychotherapist and relationship expert, for a deep and unfiltered conversation on love, commitment, and emotional healing in the modern age. Known for her bold and counterintuitive insights, Sadia brings clarity to the often murky waters of dating, self-worth, and relationship dynamics.
Sadia shares her powerful perspective on the importance of being able to walk away from disrespect, and how this one shift can transform who you attract and how you're treated. She challenges conventional dating advice by focusing not on what you attract—but what you entertain—highlighting the role of self-esteem in relationship choices. She explains why emotional unavailability feels attractive, how ghosting reflects poor communication habits, and why your dating app rejection might not be what you think it is.
Jay and Sadia dive into the core issues many of her clients face, including infidelity, fear of commitment, and men struggling with masculinity. She unpacks how a lack of male role models, the ability to set boundaries, and people-pleasing behaviors can derail modern masculinity—and how both men and women can break these cycles to build healthier love.
Sadia introduces the "Three A’s" women need to fall in love—Attraction, Admiration, and Adoration—and the "Three L’s" men need—Lust, Labor, and Loyalty—exploring how balance in these elements creates deep, lasting connection. She also breaks down why women might cheat on “nice” men and how misunderstanding emotional needs can lead to betrayal.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to Attract and Maintain Healthy Relationships.
Why Self-Worth is the Foundation of Love.
How to Avoid the Trap of Emotional Immaturity.
What Makes Men and Women Truly Commit.
The Real Reasons Behind Infidelity.
How to Build Masculine Strength in a Healthy Way.
Why Peace is Better than Constant Pleasure in Love.
This conversation is a masterclass in emotional intelligence and healing. If you're navigating heartbreak, struggling with self-worth, or seeking a deep, lasting relationship—this episode is for you.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:17 How to Stop Fearing Conflict and Start Choosing Yourself
02:24 Why We Fall for the Emotionally Unavailable
05:31 The Hidden Dangers of Dating Apps
07:01 Is Wanting Similarity the Same as Settling?
08:40 How to Stop Getting Ghosted in Modern Dating
09:31 The Early Signs of a Healthy Relationship
11:19 The Two Most Common Relationship Struggles: Infidelity and Commitment
12:19 What Happens When Men Lack Masculinity
15:25 Why Men Need Stronger Role Models
18:21 The Unspoken Contract Behind People-Pleasing
19:25 How to Show Love Without Seeking Approval
21:12 The Real Reason Women Cheat on Good Men
24:55 How to Teach Others How to Treat You
26:14 The Three A’s Every Woman Needs to Fall in Love
32:45 The Three L’s Every Man Needs to Stay in Love
36:10 How to Avoid Being Just a Temporary Fling
37:49 Why the Person You Date Isn’t Always the One You Marry
40:42 Sexual Discipline: Why It’s Essential for Self-Respect
42:29 What True Psychological Intimacy Really Looks Like
45:15 Lowering Your Standards May Cost You More Than You Think
46:10 Is Getting Cheated On Ever Partly Your Fault?
48:59 How to Recognize When You’re Being Disrespected
50:13 Are You Loyal to the Marriage or Just the Person?
52:45 The Most Honest Marriage Vow No One Talks About
56:50 Why Some Men Keep Choosing the Wrong Women
59:40 How to Know If You’re Afraid of Commitment
01:04:23 Can a Broken Relationship Be Fixed?
01:06:59 Why Knowing Your Deal Breakers Is Crucial
01:09:03 The Worst Thing to Say to Someone After a Breakup
01:09:56 Why So Many People Stay Stuck in Heartbreak
01:11:43 How to Find Closure Without an Apology
01:15:59 Not Everything You Want Is Good for You
01:66:54 Sadia on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Sadia Khan | Website
Sadia Khan | Instagram
Sadia Khan | TikTok
Sadia Khan | YouTube
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