How Can I Provide Help Without Strings Attached?

When you're stuck in the situation of being hyperand independent, the question is like, what's this down here? Like, what's the step? And the answer, in short, is, communicate. So let's understand what's going on with this person. I engage in a relationship with someone. There's a lot of tricky stuff going on here, ok? We don't actually tell people, hey, this is what i'm expecting from you. We're not transparent with it. This is where we see this kind of stuff when, like, people end up in friend's own, we're friends. Let me get you flowers for valentine's day as a friend