How to Deal With Trauma in a Relationship

I think forgiveness is really just about like if you are in a relationship like this the kind of one that George and I are talking about. You can't decide whether or not the other person in your relationship has the capacity to work through those things or not. And even if every intention on your end is like oh this relationship is meant to heal wounds for me you know if even if that's where you're at you can't like force the other person to be thinking that too. It doesn't mean that they did it intentionally that they were going out of their way to like ruin your life agreed. Nobody's acting from a place of like I really like designed the worst way to possibly ruin