I Was Abused, I'm Actively Being Abused Right Now, Right?

In most cases, with maybe a few exceptions, whoever calls like, i was abused first is the one who gets to claim the ideological space of survivor and is then believed. I think that it is common for people who are behaving abusively to feel that they are being victimized and to frame it that way. So we actually need more information about the specific acts that are being carried out in order to determine whether or not something is abusive. And if you can frame your basically normative conflict as a form of activism, is a form of political work, then you have access to a certain amount of cachet from that.